What do you follow a eulogy post with? After a year of mourning, reorienting, growing, building, adapting and such, dad is still very much a presence in our lives, and yet there are still moments when we miss him tremendously.
I’m sure mom misses him every morning when she sits down to say her prayers without having to wait for him to check the weather eight times before he can join her and every evening when she sits down to dinner without him at the table; every time she bakes a cherry pie or fries chicken; every time she wants to play pinochle, watch a movie, go to church, or works on her house. Her witness to the vocation of her marriage is simply beautiful. She is still just as devoted to him in her mourning and living now as she was when he was physically here. I hope she doesn’t mind me sharing that the other day she said “I think he is lo
What do you follow a eulogy post with? Life always follows death! After a year of mourning, reorienting, growing, building, adapting and such, dad is still very much a presence in our lives, and yet there are still moments when we miss him tremendously.
I’m sure mom misses him every morning when she sits down to say her prayers without having to wait for him to check the weather eight times before he can join her and every evening when she sits down to dinner without him at the table; every time she bakes a cherry pie or fries chicken; every time she wants to play pinochle, watch a movie, go to church, or works on her house. Her witness to the vocation of her marriage is simply beautiful. She is still just as devoted to him in her mourning and living now as she was when he was physically here. I hope she doesn’t mind me sharing that the other day she said “I think he is loving me better now than he was able to before he was gone.” I love that so much! She can tell you many stories of asking him for help with something she doesn’t know what to do one night and the next day she will wake up with the answer or the times she starts doing something on the house and tells him he is going to have to help her because she doesn’t think she can do it alone and it will be done without a hitch in no time. They are just so cool! Keep loving us papa!
I’m sure Brad misses him ever morning he is feeding cows, every time something breaks down and he is tinkering alone in the shop, and every time he is deciding what to do next on the farm (well, maybe not the times when he is doing things different from what dad would have told him).
I miss him every time I see his old pickup, every time we have a bonfire, every time I take my car to get its oil changed (instead of doing it on the farm), every time we have made sausage, every time something breaks, every time I want to play pinochle, every time mom bakes a cherry pie or fries chicken. I especially missed him at Christmas, birthdays, and this year hunting for the first time without him (except for that one time I went without him while he took mom to Saturday night Mass and I shot a three point at about 20 yards on opening Saturday and dad had my hunting knife in his pickup and the old one I grabbed was as sharp as a butter knife and I got the Kabota and loaded him up whole and drove him home and dad got home just in time to do all the gutting for me. And did I mention I gut shot the deer?)
We miss him and will undoubtedly continue to do so through the rest of the year. Easter, then hauling hay, then birthdays. Father’s Day, then combining, then more birthdays, then vacations, then the Chicken Dinner. And then when his fourth grandchild comes into the world….
Carl and I are expecting a baby at the end of September/beginning of October. Now that we are into the second trimester, it feels like most people know and are already looking forward to the date just as much as we are. Can you believe it? I’ll be practically 37 and Carl will be 44. Henry will be 19.5, Ava will be 17, Elyse will be 14 almost 15, and Isabel will be 13 with a brand new baby! We are all excited!
We have the books, apps, and more information than I know what to do with. Baby is 16 weeks today. Which means we have a dill pickle/poire belle Helene/Philippine tasier/avocado (3-4ounces and 4-5inches). Which has me looking around the house at all the things baby sized! At 4 months, they say baby is starting to perceive light and sound and is finally just big enough that I could start feeling baby move any day. We have a midwife who is the most wonderful, peaceful woman and who I am so thankful to have found to walk with us through our first pregnancy. She says as a first time mom, I probably won’t feel baby for a few more weeks at least. 20 week ultrasound when we will see baby is getting close! We have heard baby’s heartbeat- so amazing! 150-160 beats per minute, baby is a little hummingbird! I am getting bigger, too, but I just look bigger, not discernibly baby bump pregnant…. Not yet!
No food cravings (which I was quite excited for), but several aversions (which are no fun). The chronic queasies have finally subsided a bit and I am able to go 2 hours without putting crackers in my belly. I’ve learned the reality of “baby brain” and have been surprised by so many things that women just don’t talk about! Where are the mothers having conversations about all these things? Maybe just because I never had sisters, it’s all new to me. But, thankful to be in the second trimester. And just as the spring weather is arriving! It is wonderful! The miracle of new life coinciding with all the miracles of Easter and spring time! God is so very good to us!
We have lots of things to do to get the house ready and lots of adventures already planned for the summer. The next 6 months is going to be a whirlwind of activities and I’m already tired! Living in the old farmhouse, we have plans for making a nursery upstairs. We have a cute old bassinet that fits perfectly in our tiny bedroom. We have plans to use cloth diapers, you know, because I don’t like anything that has to be thrown away after a one time use [other than toilet paper] and I don’t want any unnecessary toxic chemicals for baby. So breast feeding (duh!), cloth diapers/reusable paper towels/washable sponges (Green Mountain Diapers), reusable wipes (Marley’s Monsters- made in Eugene, OR!!!), buying USED clothes! I love not buying new things! Fortunately, there are starting to be websites for that! Although I’m not sure how I feel about renting baby clothes yet, I am totally on board with hand me downs! Hannah Andersson has a Preloved site, Bounce Mkt is all resale clothes, RebelStork and Good Buy Gear is used and overstock baby gear, ThreadUp has clothes for everyone. I love it! But if we are buying new, organic cotton clothes are our favorite (Pact). I know, Facebook Marketplace is the one everyone recommends, but I haven’t quite jumped into that pool yet.
Soooo…. Stay tuned for all the things to come! First off is getting the farm garden shaped up. The high tunnel needs fixed, the irrigation needs fixed, the deer fence needs fixed, the non-existent deer gate needs fixed. I mean installed. Did I mention the house needs fixed? Then, we will leave for 3 weeks! We are going to go to New Zealand this summer (to keep me from hauling hay?) in June. Hopefully any house fixes will be able to be fixed while we are gone. Then there are two family reunions this summer, one for Carl’s family (for a week!) and one for all my extendeds. Then…. it’s September with all the canning, back to school, and last minute nesting for baby! Thankfully, I know we will have dad helping us with all of it :) Love you, dad!
Pray for us! Sorry if this is scattered and rambling. That’s how my brain is! Next time there will be pictures, I promise!